Will Your Message Fit the Bill?

Making the Move to Online Dating
Well, you finally did it, you signed up for the online dating site. You’ve only been thinking about it for a few months now, and finally it was time, right? Of course it was. So, now you are signed up, you will need to work a little magic so the other singles will want to talk to you. There are some things you need to take care of first before jumping into a chat room to talk. Some preparations to make, a profile to fill out, a photo to upload, people to meet and talk to, promotion of yourself on the site…

You see, to take a chat room relationship and turn it into a long term substantial one, takes a certain kind of person. The kind of person who isn’t afraid to take advice and let other people tell them what to do for a while… So, if you are that person, here are some tips to get it done, and done right

#1-Don’t Be Afraid to Work It
You know the saying, “You get what you give” right? There is no difference between applying that phrase to any other part of your life then applying it to online dating. In this case, because no one is going to want to talk to anyone who doesn’t have the patience to make themselves look good for them, you won’t get anything out of the site that you don’t put into it. This goes for all parts of your dating profile, including how you write it and which photo you choose, two of the potentially most underestimated parts of the online dating process.

When you fill out your profile, try to be as accurate and creative as possible, wile trying to avoid outright lies or obvious blunders. For example, you don’t want to exaggerate too much on a good point, if you finally meet someone you will eventually have to explain away what you write. Also, you want to be honest, but you don’t have to include the windows you broke in your troubled past. Believe it or not, it is possible to be honest and creative without telling all or making yourself look bad in the process. It just takes time to get it right. If your profile doesn’t sound right the first time around, try and try again until it does.

#2-Picturing the Future
Now, you will want to go through some photos, and pick a few that make you look really good. Not some that are exaggerated, or do not accurately represent what you look like now, you don’t want to deceive anyone. Worse, you definitely don’t want to have the thought stuck in your head the person is only talking to you because of what yo look like right?

Out of the pile of possibles, pick a few you really like and choose one for the main photo, and upload it as the default pic. The one you choose should, the ideal photo would be a head shot of some sort, either of a good picture that you have cropped to just your head and upper body, or an actual head shot, like the professional photos. And you should be smiling, of course. Who wants to talk to someone who looks as if they are constantly unhappy?

Once you have picked out the main picture, the rest can go into a photo album for the public to see, or you can make them private for only approved people to see them.

#3-Reaching Out-Silence is a Turn-Off!
The third most important way to turn an online chat into a long term relationship is to actually chat with people. While some peole are successful sitting in the sidelines, just waiting for the perfect person to fall into their laps, most peole do not operate this way.

It’s simple, really. reaching out to someone you find interesting is the only way to see if they have the same interest in you. If you don’t actually reach out to people to talk to them, they may never even know you exist. What you should ideally be doing is, after you finish the steps above and are done with your profile, is browse the lists, or photos of singles on the site (depending on how your particular site is set up). The biggest turn off, and put-off is a person who is afraid to make contact. Or someone who doesn’t answer when someone tries to chat you.

When you find the first person you want to chat with, the first thing is to tell them where you found them and you want to get to know them. Simple. But, something many people can not do for themselves, which is why Matching services have become so popular. If you can make the first move to make the first chat, chances are you will get a response. Then when the person responds to you, they will have a full profile to work off of and look at, being as you took the time to do it right, and chances are better for you just for that reason. I know I don’t want to chat with someone who has a blank profile. I want to know who I am talking to.

Will You make It? It’s Up to You, Ultimately
Even though #3 is the most important in terms of communication, the other two are just as important because no one is going to want to communicate with someone who might talk the talk but be out to scam them, or worse. be a spambot themselves.

Wow, I bet you never realized how much work finding someone online would be. And, now you know not to act like spam and get yourself booted for it, either. You see, that is one of the biggest things many people don’t realize when they go to an online dating site to look for love. While most people who join these sites want a quick and easy way to find a partner and a relationship, an online dating site is not that.

Unless you are joining a “hook-ups only” site, which are there for the sole purpose of finding someone for a short term proposition, joining-and working-an online dating site to your advantage takes a lot of patience. While, yes, they do save time in the long run, up front you will still need to put a lot of time into it to get anything decent out of it. And believe it or not, these three basic steps, while fundamental to anyone’s basic online dating site success, are the first ones most people will actually skip; just to go for broke instead, even when they have no idea what they are getting themselves into. And what they are getting themselves in return for their impatience is a forever chat relationship, as no one is ever gong to want to go any further with them otherwise.